Caregivers: Dealing with Issues of Anxiety and Depression in the Elderly

Caregiving is one of the most emotionally taxing jobs, and it can be even more difficult when you are caregiving for a loved one with depression or anxiety. Sadly, depression and anxiety in older adults is not completely uncommon. Older adults experience a significant amount of loss as the years pass. They experience loss of work, death of friends and loved ones, and their own physical and mental declines. These losses lead to depression and anxiety.

Caregivers are affected by the depression and anxiety of their elder loved ones. It is challenging to care for a depressed or anxious loved one and also take care of oneself. It is therefore very important that caregivers not ignore the signs of depression and anxiety either in their loved ones or themselves.

Here are some things to remember while caring for someone with depression or anxiety:  

It’s not about you. This may be the harshest way to put it, but remember that your loved one isn’t depressed or anxious because of something you are doing. Separate yourself from their depression and anxiety, and this will help relieve some of the feelings of frustration and anger that can develop. Depression and anxiety are clinical diseases and even the most qualified caregivers in the world couldn’t treat them without medication.

It’s okay to take a break. When you’re feeling overwhelmed by emotion, remember that it’s okay to put everything down and take a 15 minute break. Everyone can feel overwhelmed by emotion, and admitting to yourself and your loved one that you need a break is okay. Taking this time for yourself can help you regroup and be support your loved one.  

Know the symptoms of depression. Educate yourself on the warning signs and symptoms of depression. Understanding why and how your loved one is feeling will help you understand the disease more.  

Contact your physician immediately if you notice a change in your moods. If you see any symptoms of anxiety or depression in yourself, seek treatment. It’s easy to think that these emotions will pass, but depression and anxiety are serious illnesses.

Here is a wonderful article from HelpGuide.org about helping people with depression and anxiety while simultaneously supporting yourself emotionally.